How to talk: Preparing, Ice Breakers & Follow Ups
Talking can be hard for many reasons. Some people simply don’t know how to express themselves. Some people don’t have anyone to talk to and others find the thought of sharing their vulnerability as a sign of weakness, where we know it takes someone really strong to say they are vulnerable.
Acknowledging talking is hard, we are going to look at some reasons to talk and suggest some ways to open the conversation.
Be natural, talk about common ground and things you have or did have in common.
If there is a sensitive topic or a falling out, don’t lead with this, let the person know you are not trying to pick a fight. Just by calling you are doing the right thing.
In this day and age you might want to do some virtual stalking before you call them. Have a look at what they post about on their social media, this could be a great starting point. I saw you are renovating your place, how busy is Bunnings at the moment?
I just thought I’d call to see how you are?
It’s been too long I wanted to say hi?
I was thinking about you recently and thought I`d call.
I was thinking about (a common point of interest) and I thought of you.
I have realised how important talking is and am making an effort to connect.
How is your IOS life?
How are you feeling about lockdown?
What do you think will happen next?
How do you think X will go next season?
What are you most looking forward to after lockdown?
When do you want to catch up again?